I Am A Patient Parent

My kids benefit when I have a calm demeanor. I do my best to manage my emotions. I slow down and take deep breaths. I try to make rational decisions. I often speak softly and firmly. I use discipline as a tool for teaching rather than punishment.

Triggers

I identify my triggers and I observe my behavior. I recognize the situations that lead me to become frustrated. I figure out the reasons behind my impatience and develop coping strategies.

Planning Ahead

I plan ahead. I lower the risk of tantrums, meltdowns and acting out. I spend quality time with my kids and listen to what they have to say. I try to create consistent routines and expectations.

Being Empathetic

I show empathy. I recognize that my child’s behavior is a natural part of growing up rather than a deliberate challenge to my authority. I look for ways to make their struggles easier while encouraging their independence.

Role Models

I find role models. I observe other parents and teachers who interact well with children.

The Big Picture

I focus on the big picture. My relationship with my children matters more to me that any passing irritation.

I Matter Too

I take care of my own needs as well. It is easier for me to be patient when I eat a healthy diet, exercise regularly and sleep well. I balance spending time with my kids and cultivating adult relationships and outside interests.

Today, I remember that being patient with myself helps me to be patient with my kids. I am happy and composed.

Self Reflection Questions

1. How can I teach myself to be more patient?
2. How does acknowledging my frustration help me to calm down?
3. What can I do to fix the situation if I find myself losing my patient?